“What is the biggest mistake you ever made, and what did you learn from it?”
Getting married the first time. He had issues. He was abusive. When that turned physical, I ended it. A year later he was begging to get back together. I was cautious. However, he really had changed. So, the relationship progressed. We married. Except as I walked down the aisle with my dad, I whispered, “This is not right. I shouldn’t be doing this.” I panicked. My dad told me we could turn around right then. But, no. There was a lot of money spent. There were a LOT of people there. I couldn’t do that. So, onward we went.
It lasted barely 3 years. I could not stand him. I resented him. He was a mama’s boy and I was more married to his mother than to him. He was jealous, childish, and petty and when he started lying about his drinking, I was done.
Leaving was the best thing I ever did. I have no regrets because my time with him taught me SO much about what I did, and did not want, in a partner. And I think that is a pretty big thing!!
It taught much, much more than that, as well. I won’t get into all of the ugliness here, as it is all water under a far away bridge now. But I am grateful it happened, because it helped to make me who I am today.
Until next time …